Nobody told this to Chrissy on Love & Hip Hop last year. Perhaps if she had properly scheduled her proposal it wouldn't have taken so much to get Jim Jones to actually say "YES" to marriage.
There is something to be said for the brave female who puts herself out there and tries to grab what she wants. For me...I don't know.
If marriage proposals were as easy as a woman asking a man, I'm betting Annie Macaulay would have been married to Tuface a LONG time ago. Perhaps somewhere between illegitimate child 3 and 4?
Should a woman propose to a man?
It is 2012 and we are all "liberated" "modern" women but, personally, I would not do it. It is one thing to "take charge" of a situation and invite a man out for drinks, its another thing entirely to actually propose marriage.
I have witnessed a "reverse" proposal. I was in California last year where I attended a very large tech conference. During the conference a woman proposed to her boyfriend on stage in front of thousands of attendees. He said yes.
I talked about this with Alpa Chino. His thoughts: if a man wants to get married to you he will propose; if a woman has to propose then chances are that man doesn't want to marry you and will only say yes because of coercion. What sort of coercion is Alpa Chino referring to? In the case of the tech conference, that of public scrutiny. I am all for public proposals in cases where both parties have mutually agreed that marriage is on the table and if that is what happened in the case of the tech conference proposal more power to that woman--I suppose.
Take Chrissy from Love & Hip Hop. After her proposal to Jim Jones last year in front of all their friends, family, and millions of viewers, she got a "yes" sort of. After all, what man would embarrass his girlfriend with a "no"? BUT, in spite of her proposal and his apparent acceptance, she didn't get a ring until he was ready to propose.
His proposal was sorely lacking in finesse or romance but that is a discussion for another day.
Consider the man's point of view on this. I imagine there are men out there that would find a "reverse" proposal emasculating--regardless of whether or not they planned to propose. After all, it is traditionally a man's job to propose and who knows how he will feel having that "taken away" from him? Besides, women ask men to propose everyday with words, actions, etc so after all that work why not just let him propose?
I am all for female empowerment but, on this topic I am going the "old school" route. I will not be doing any proposing leap day or otherwise. Ahh, but what if he doesn't ask? Will I wait around forever? Of course not. As I have said again and again on this blog, marriage is not on my life "must do" checklist.
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If you are a woman planning to propose to a man this leap day, good luck! I think--for an honest answer--you might want to do it in private? At least be sure to have a discussion about it before springing it on him! I applaud your courage.
Enjoy your Leap Day!
